Sunday, January 13, 2013

Part of the Team

Watching sports is any Country's favorite past-time. The sport could be Football, Soccer, Basketball, Baseball, Lacrosse, Hockey, etc.
But what does it mean to be a fan? 
To me, a fan is someone who never deserts there team. A fan is someone who cheers for the same team, winning or losing. A fan is a person who doesn't jump from one team to another based on stats, or performance.
 I myself am a home town girl, which means to me that I cheer for my hometown teams (Broncos, Nuggets, Rockies, Avalanche, Rapids, Mammoth). Recently myself and other fans have witnessed a defeat by the Baltimore Ravens for a chance at the AFC championship. I have been disgusted by the response of "fans" on the social networks. Yes, I am disappointed that we did not make it to the championships but at the same time I am very proud to be a Denver Broncos fan. Yes, there were obvious mistakes made by my team in the game but it is nothing for me to disown my team or to act like I am mortified or pissed off to be a Broncos fan.  I will always love my Broncos and I look forward to the next season of football were hopefully we can learn from our mistakes and move on as a team. When I think of a fan, I always think of the         
                                                                 Oakland Raiders. 
The Oakland Raiders are undoubtedly the worst team in the NFL, but if you knew nothing about football and saw the Oakland Raiders fans you would never know that.  They cheer and stay in the there seats even when they are obviously not going to win the game. The fans appreciated there teams and will stick with them throughout anything.
After the devasting loss to the Baltimore Ravens, I attended a Colorado Mammoth Lacrosse home opener at the Pepsi Center. 
Talk about a fan base!!! 
The crowd at these games are always filled with excitement! Even though as the game continued and it didn't look very good for the Mammoth the crowd was still very excited. Cheering at every goal our team made no matter how far behind we were. The Mammoth do something very special that I have not seen else where. During the last 90 seconds of the game winning or losing the crowd stands and stays on there feet. Almost as if it is a standing ovation for the home team. 
So to be called a true fan in my eyes you need to stand by your team no matter what happens. You need to always be for your home team and never give anything but shared disappointment when something doesn't go according to plan. 
Now a fan, Forever a fan.


Thursday, January 10, 2013

Steps To A Stronger You

With the new year fresh out of the gate we are all looking for ways to change ourselves. At the top of the list of your 2013 resolution is to becoming stronger. Maybe physically, but I am talking about mentally. This is the ultimate how to on becoming a stronger human being.

Lets Begin
1. Stop letting the little things get to you. People spend the majority of there time over-analyzing something small. You do not need to analyze over and over on why your best friend said that you aren't the smartest one in the bunch. Take it with a grain-of-salt and own up to it. Most likely when your good friend is saying you are acting like a retard it is probably because you are. People let little things just ruin there entire day. Who wins in that situation? Not you! Just let that shit go! 

2. Do not rely on anyone but yourself. When you rely on only yourself no one is able to let you down. When someone does come to help you or rescue you it even makes it that big of a surprise. When you rely on yourself it also helps you become more responsible, (ex, I know no ones going to help me pay rent this month, so I need to make sure I have the proper amount of money by the end of the month.) This does not make you a shut out to other people it just reminds you that people are not all what they say they are. Expect the worse and be surprised at there best! 

3. Do not give your heart out to people out of the gate. Remember whenever you give your heart out you are also giving a huge possibility of getting it broken and becoming crushed. Never fall in love with people, only love them as they are because that way you cannot be hurt. This does not mean that you cannot care for someone, go ahead and care for people, just don't let them get close enough to hurt your feeling. It's easier to explain it this way. If you are having sex with someone and you know that there are no emotions there other than just pure lust, remember that. ITS JUST LUST. The more you let your mind think there is something more, the chances of you getting hurt are greater when come to find out it was just lust. Do not sleep with someone that you have strong feelings for unless you know that they express that same feeling towards you. (now the mind can play dirty tricks and can make you believe that they feel the same way, but if you know they are just in it for sex, you know they are just in it for sex, don't let you mind play with you.) If you are looking to sleep with someone just to get laid, than keep it that way, make sure that both partners know that nothing else is going to stem from it. the more you take the right precautions in giving out your heart the less likely you are going to get hurt. 

4. Get over things faster. It's difficult to say that to some people, but the truth to the story is the faster you move on the easier it is to get over things. What is in the past is in the past, you cannot go back, what has happened has happened nothing more nothing less.  You can only learn from your mistakes and go on from there. (Ex. You put your hand on the stove when you were a kid, what did you learn? Did you learn that stoves are evil things and you can never get over the fact that the stove hurt you in that way? Or did you learn that stoves are hot and you shouldn't put your hand on one?) Not letting the little things get to you allows you to see the bigger picture. 

5. Life is hard. Remember that!!! Things are not going to be hand fed to you. You are going to have to work to get what you want. That goes for every aspect in your life! You don't just wake up and have a pay check in your bank account, no you had to go work at a job for 40 hours that week and bust your rump for it. Life is hard and it doesn't help telling anyone that. Keep that shit to yourself. Everyone is going through there own struggle there own problems and the last thing they want is to listen to yours. 

6. Do not be afraid to be alone. Nothing is wrong with enjoying alone time, but it is also not something to be afraid of. You can learn a lot from yourself by being alone. What you like, what you don't like. Knowing yourself and how you act alone will help you act more like yourself around others. Nothing is worse than putting up that wall that makes people believe that you are someone you are not. Living up the expectation of being someone else can cause someone to mentally break-down. NOT GOOD!

7. Along with step 6. Do not be afraid to be yourself! The more you act like you, say the things you wanna say, express your own opinions, the more likely you are to find people that are going to like you for who you are, and not something you are not. I have been lucky to have found a group of friends who accept me for who I really am. They know I'm not that intelligent, they know I am a huge dork, I don't have to be someone I am not around them. 

8. Own up to your personal faults. Nothing knocks down a hater than when you accept the things you are being called. Nothing hurts more than when a hater calls you a name and all you respond with is YUP! Even to the point when someone says that you are something that you are not. Things cannot bother you if you don't let them. (Recently I was called easy, and instead of getting upset (which I initially did) I decided to make a joke out of it. "He called me easy, I don't understand why he would say such true statements about me.") The people who truly know you will already know these faults and will have actually come to love those faults. 

9. Enjoy life! I know people say that all the time but it isn't as hard as it sounds. (Ex. Hate the music at work? When a song comes on that you hate, make up your own lyrics that make it much more hilarious, sing along with those lyrics each time, you and others might even get a laugh out of it.) You cannot dread life, that does not help to make life better for you or anyone around you. Trying to find the positive out of life, than focusing on the negative will put you in that pessimistic mind set that no one wants to be around. Smile more you deserve it!

10. Family. Never forget your family. Make time for your family. Do not let them slip through your fingers. If you aren't speaking with your family it is time to drop whatever happened and pick up a phone and talk to them. Family is a bond that cannot be broken, you can break up every friendship you have, you can break the hearts of many lovers and ex lovers, but losing a family member is a wound that never heals.

11. Stop asking for pity on facebook. Just stop. No one wants to hear what you are doing day to day, so why are they going to care that you are having a shitty day? That also goes along with the inspirational posts, saying, "I'm stronger now than I have ever been." Or any other inspirational quote that is posted on a black and white picture and posted to your wall on your facebook. Usually the people who post this, are sitting behind there keyboard crying. We are all guilty of posting a status that either indirectly asks or straight up asks for your sympathy. Don't do it anymore, it only makes me what to break my lap top when I see it. The strongest people in the world do not get on there facebooks and post about how strong they are. Trust me.

If you take each step I have given you in this blog and remember to always be yourself and never let anyone get you down. You will be stronger and better off for the rest of 2013. The word weak is not in your vocabulary, you are strong and you have to believe you are strong, before you even begin to think of starting any of these steps!
Yeah... Don't post shit like this ^^

Just Call Me Bro

Ever since I can remember I have always been friends with boys. When I was little I always found tea-parties and make believe very boring. I would watch the boys across the street play with cars, crashing into one another, fighting, playing with dirt. The boys would always have the most fun. I than became attached to the boys. I choose to bro out over girl talk any day! 
Dudes, you have it down! 
You get together you party, if you fight you settle it and that's that! There is nothing more simple than sitting at a bar with the guys and just chatting the day away, not talking about petty drama, but sports, and recent activities or the hot bartender! Of course I do have my girl friends, but you will find I spent the majority of my time with the guys. Now, I know that it is not as easy as it looks for a group of guys to hang out with a girl. Well I make it easy, I know that right away that I am there to just be one of the guys. The best thing about being a bro is being able to sit there and talk shit back and forth, back and forth and never take anything personally. 

I watched the movie Lawless the other day. The female character that plays aside Shia I was interested in and for all the wrong reasons. She had no fun WHAT SO EVER. The only fun expression shown on her face the entire movie was when she took a ride in a car. While, Shia's character, and Tom Hardy's character were selling moonshine, fighting, blowing shit up, guns and fast cars. The only fun the female character had was riding in a car. It was like watching a dog go for a car ride!! WHAT IS THE FUN IN THAT?!!!

I cannot stand how much the female population over-thinks things. "He gave me this look across the bar that has to mean something, right?" No bitch it means he was just looking at you!!! "He asked to borrow my phone to make a phone call. Out of all the people at work he asked me." He asked to borrow your phone because you were probably the first person he ran into. They have a way of making every situation much worse that it should be. "Well, he just texted me K. Like what the hell is that supposed to mean. You know what? I am not going to text him for a full day. See how he likes it." He probably loves it you crazy whore! "He asked me to go to the bar after work it means he wants something right?" No, it means he wants to go to the bar and get to know you better. THAT IS ALL! Men are simple creatures and women are vial, evil creatures and can flip, turn and manipulate anything you say or do!  In order to bro you have to stop over thinking everything and just take it as it comes at you. Usually with a guy, if he says something, he really does mean that one thing. 

Please ladies if you plan on switching from bitch to bro here are some simple rules:
1. DO NOT think that every bro wants to sleep with you. (They probably don't)
2. DO NOT go to a sporting event with a guy if you are going to sit there and ask annoying questions. (Take the time and google that shit)
3. DO NOT always get wasted with your bros. (Some times, you need to keep an eye on your bros, they are not your baby sitters)
4. If a bro gets into the friend zone (a friend (usually of the other sex) that has more feelings for you than you do for them, aka searching for a deeper relationship other than bro status.) let them know what your intentions are, let them know that you know they are in the friend zone and you would like to keep it that way.
5. DO NOT always talk about the exs who fucked you over. (No one cares)
6. DO NOT talk shit to a bro than get you feelings hurt when the bro shoots back. (Don't talk shit if you cannot dish it)
7. DO NOT let them pay for lunch/dinner/bar-tab always (sometimes, things still need to be fair) be sure they know that you can pay for yourself and others.
8. DO NOT worry about having your make up always be done around them. (if they are a true bro, they won't give a shit what you look like)
9. DO NOT try to start a relationship with a bro. (It'll cause a catastrophic end for the entire group and a "divorce" type situation begins.)
10. PLAY video games. Get on an xbox, ps3, and shoot something. (It's more fun than you think!)
11. DO NOT get offended when the word bitch is used in your direction (usually people only take offense to something when they are what they are being called, and you can't be a bitch if you want to be a bro.)

All in all I rather hang out or "bro-out" with the guys before catching up with girls. But that's just me! I will never be that over thinking, upsetting, overly offended, boring, gossipy excuse for a girl. I will be with my bros, talking shit, drinking beer, talking sports, enjoying life!